Taking Action In Sacred Space – Part I
Kindness, Beauty, And Honesty –Touching The Divine Feminine
Authentically expressing ourselves and consciously taking positive action in the midst of our daily experience is what I refer to as living in “sacred space”. Of course, it’s pretty easy when we’re experiencing joy to be fully present in the moment. It’s simple and sweet. It’s like swinging on a warm summer day. It’s ice cream. Its tickly butterflies and nature, laughter, and hugs. Joy is, well… joyful! It’s easy to be in the moment because we treasure the feeling, our senses thrive, and even our sense of time beautifully melts away when we feel joyful…
Yet what happens when we experience our fears through anger? Are we as fully present in the moment, able to express our most honest feelings? Can we really move through our fears as effortlessly as we experience our joys? The answer is yes. Of course, the fun factor of fear and joy oppose each other, but what we’ll be exploring is our ability to feel and express ourselves as easily with one as we do the other. It actually boils down to giving ourselves permission! Notice how joy is spontaneously expressed and released, and notice where we’ve learned to usually express fear through filters of anger. Not being able to honestly express fear stops us from naturally releasing it and getting on with our lives. Instead, we hold onto it. It gets locked inside us and fears grow upon fears in sometimes very twisted ways. How did all this get started?
We’ve all played a role in supporting a belief system passed down through the ages from institutions to families that expressing fear was a weakness. And just as horribly flawed as that has been, we’ve equated the feminine as weak! It’s been a nasty dilemma for us all. Expressing joy is mainly approved for both men and women, but honestly expressing our fears got derailed as being feminine weakness. Then the divine feminine aspects that are a part of us all became marginalized…What have we done? We censor our fears mainly through anger. And it bites back at us every day. So much stress and violence on the planet…
Then how do we move through our fears as effortlessly as we experience our joys? First, we’ll need to retrieve three misplaced golden threads that are a natural part of a well-balanced masculine and feminine human being. These are the golden threads of kindness, beauty, and honesty that will help us get to the core of fear. We’ll become reacquainted with and remember to filter our daily experiences through these three assets, a much needed repair of a nasty wound to the beautiful tapestry of our humanity.
Let’s look at these three golden assets before we talk about how we move through anger with ease.
Kindness: Kindness is also gentleness, compassion, and includes forgiveness. Instead of judging ourselves and others, apply kindness. In other words, put down the sword and look at situations with some understanding – imagine being in another person’s shoes. Be willing to look in the mirror and see our own goodness. Be willing to accept another’s viewpoint, agreeing to disagree. Very few things are black and white, right or wrong, but instead, many shades in between. Remember, the things that bother us the most about someone, are the places in us calling to heal. Apply kindness and watch how things soften and loosen their rigid grip. Kindness melts away harshness. It’s magic. And it’s powerfully feminine!
Beauty: More than external appearance, beauty is also grace, elegance with a spot of humility and refinement, artistry, fascination, loveliness. Notice the love in loveliness? Beauty lives within all things. Every creature, every being, has an inherent desire and gifts for value fulfillment, needing to express and be valued by others as well as know self-value. Look to the soul. Reach for the inner beauty and discover something valuable, even when others are unwilling to see. Be willing. Beauty dissolves fear. Another powerful feminine aspect!
Honesty: Truthfulness, openness, confidence, fairness, sincerity, self-respect, and genuineness are expressions of self-confidence and backbone. Fully opening ourselves is a feminine quality, and the courage to be open has a masculine quality to it too. Here is an example where both masculine and feminine aspects form a balanced union. It is necessary to resurrect the feminine aspect, to acknowledge equal value. Apply honesty and dispel the internal battles. Immediate healing, relief, and sense of well-being are the gifts we give ourselves, and giving is divinely feminine!
Our ability to uncover fear in anger and then extinguish anger with ease will be determined by how we apply kindness, beauty, and honesty. We’ll learn to minimize frequent diversions of anger, and get to the core – the fear, and confront it directly.
Six Steps To Uncover Fear In Anger
- Acknowledge the anger. State what I am angry about.
- Ask, "Why am I angry?"
- Ask, "Why does (fill in the blank) make me feel angry?" (We may need to repeat this step)
- Ask, "What is it I am afraid of in this situation?"
- Acknowledge the fear. State what the fear is beneath the anger.
- Finally ask, "What can I do about it?" and "What do I want to do about it?"
In fully expressing what we’re afraid of losing or not having, we can shudder, shake, and weep if we have to, to release the fear in order to regain our emotional, spiritual and physical balance. Always ask what the fear is beneath the anger. Then we’re free to fully feel our present experience. Hail to the divine feminine! The world has been sorely in need of her balancing presence - front and center, if you please…
Next month: Taking Action In Sacred Space – Part II
Affirmation for this month: Freedom
Today, I am liberated from fears, doubts and worries. I remain focused in the present moment of my journey as I carry out the choices and actions true to my spirit.
Live in beauty and be well - Triza Schultz
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